4 Steps to REALLY Listen spouse
When we think about communication, talking is what usually
comes to mind. Talk, however, is only one part of effective communication. Active
listening is another, and is as important as talking. In a marriage, it is absolutely vital. This type of listening is
not passive; place, a deliberate effort is needed.
When we think about communication, talking is what usually
comes to mind. Talk, however, is only one part of effective communication. Active
listening is another, and is as important as talking. In a marriage, it is absolutely vital. This type of listening is
not passive; place, a deliberate effort is needed.
Unfortunately, most of us have
very poor listening skills. We tend to monopolize Conversations in Place First
a PUT someone else. Usually, listen paragraph Hear What We Listen, or Play with
a Weekend Ask Response. Sins Estes child behaviors in the context of marriage
are a good communication. The Game Makes Another person feels important and
respected each other, while lack Listening Makes the Other Person Feel
Important yes, trampled and ignored.
If your goal is to
improve your listening
skills and really listen to what your spouse has to say,
here are four ways:
Way #01: Zone in your spouse. First, eliminate distractions. Turn off the TV and telephone, have the kids go in
another room, and kept working. Next, make good
eye contact by looking directly to your spouse. Do not look to the
ground, writhing in her seat,
or look
elsewhere. Finally, do not interrupt. Let your husband all the time to tell a complete story. Do not finish sentences from
your spouse for correct him / her? Be patient until
it is your turn to speak, and not dream about what
you will say next. Just listen.
Way #02: Use appropriate
body language. For
starters, uncrossing his arms. Crossed arms automatically make it appear that you are upset or defensive.
Rather, eager to show interest
and keep your hands in your lap sit. Your goal is to make your partner feel
comfortable. This is also a good idea to mentally review the face. If you are smiling
or frowning, relax your face so that your
spouse will feel comfortable. Then stop talking. It is impossible to listen while talking. We
have two ears and one mouth, and to be used in that
proportion. Finally, occasionally nodding in understanding. This allows non-verbal cue your
partner know that you
understand what he / she is saying and who
are interested in learning
more.
Way #03: Interact and respond. First, make sure
your spouse is really finished speaking before
responding. The worst thing
you can do is jump in the time your spouse pauses to take a
breath. A good general rule is to wait several seconds
to make sure she is /. Here are some questions that come to mind about what your spouse was saying. Ask
for clarification on anything you
were unsure. Do not assume anything-- ask instead. Finally, show your spouse you were listening, paraphrasing and summarizing some of what was said. One
way is to say: "It seems that you are saying ... xyz". Your
spouse or winks at that point or to clarify the parties do not understand.
Way #04: Managing well. Sometimes the
hardest part of the
communication is handling what we hear. We cannot agree with something,
we can offend, or get angry. Communication
is important in marriage
does not attack your spouse. Instead, try to see things from the point of
view of their spouse. Just because
you disagree does not mean you cannot
try to understand things
from the perspective of your spouse.
Instead of attacking or reacting
emotionally, say something like: ". I'll have to take some time to consider it," That shows your
spouse that you have been
listening and that you care enough to think about what they
have said. Even if you never agree to a particular subject, that does not mean you have to fight
or argue about it. It is rare that two people agree on everything,
even when they love. This can be good or bad, depending on how you choose to handle it. Administration shall ensure that either spouse feels safe enough to share with you in the future. If you attack every
time you disagree, your spouse can get to stop sharing.
These four steps to
improve listening skills are a good start toward making your spouse feel loved
and heard. Listening shows you care. Practice what you've learned here, and
you'll be well on your way to better communication.
BR
Farhan Shahzad
Clickpersky
